选择
从网上报章看到了这则文章 ，读后让我深觉同感。难道不是吗？过去的几个月，我们无时无刻都可以从报章看到某某地产发展商在未正式推出最新公寓时就已被扫购一空。价格还是一涨再涨，一家紧接着一家推出。问题不是不是这些，而是难道真有这么多人能够买如此昂贵的房子吗？
看到报道以后，也听到很多朋友或朋友的朋友提升了，纷纷购买地产。心里不禁地想：是自己没本事还是自己的收入已远远落在人后，还是。。。？？心情有点低落。。。
这时候当然也想起妈妈所说的：“人比人气死人。。 ” 呵呵。。话虽如此但难免会比较。
所谓，没有比较就没有进步。在这社会，人们有了比较，所以不时地在进步。人们也因为怕被淘汰而努力提升自己。但需要做到哪个地步哪个层次呢？那就要看你自己要的是什么吧！有些人只要有一碗粥吃就很高兴了，但也有些人对自己所拥有的东西还不满足。凡是尽心尽力，开心最为重要。
一切的一切皆是自己的选择，可以是知足常乐，也可以是不停追逐。选择，在于你自己。。。
The problem with envy By Sumiko Tan - Apr 8, 2007 The Straits Times
IS IT just me, or do you also feel a sense of disquiet creeping up on you whenever you read the newspapers these days?
In particular, stories about the red-hot property market and how swanky apartments - with price tags to match - are being snapped up left, right and centre and stories about people earning mind-blowing sums of $5 million a year?
Do these stories make you a little unhappy with your own life? Do they leave you with niggling feelings of being left out of the party, of the champagne bypassing you?
Oh, don't shoot the messenger। Newspapers merely report what's happening out there, and in all probability the stories are just the tip of the iceberg.
Actually, what's happening in Singapore - to Singapore - is a cause for celebration for every Singaporean।
I can't remember another period where there's been so much buoyancy, so much optimism and anticipation, about the country।
The way I see it, the tide turned when the okay was given for the integrated resorts। Imagine not one but two casinos being allowed in famously constrained Singapore.
With the IRs come not just high-class gambling like the sort you see in Las Vegas but also an ArtScience museum in Marina Bay and a Universal Studios theme park in Sentosa। And it's all just two, three years away.
Then came the property boom, and what a boom this time around। Singapore has never seen apartments this luxe being launched, and with price tags that were unthinkable just a year ago.
New pricing benchmarks are set every other week। The current record? The Orchard Residences where the smallest unit - 1,800 sq ft - sold for at least $7.2 million. A 53rd storey penthouse was reportedly snapped up by a Singaporean businessman for more than $17 million.
Then came news that Singapore might host the Formula One Grand Prix and that one blew me away।
If it materialises, no one can ever say that Singapore isn't one hot city।
Picture the circus that will roll into town every year। Imagine the maniacal drone of cars in the old City Hall area, Kimi Raikkonen in his Ferrari streaking past the Esplanade, good ole Merlion spouting water in the distance, the Singapore River shimmering behind.
Singapore will be not just the Paris and Las Vegas of South-east Asia, but Monaco thrown in, too, and everyone will get to feast on the spoils।
It's a vision that makes your pulse quicken with excitement। It's a vision that makes you glad you are Singaporean and which makes you wish you were 20 years younger so you can be a big part of the future.
It's also a vision that causes envy।
THE disquiet I feel when I read such stories is part fear, part envy।
The fear comes from being worried that in this brave new world that will be Singapore, I will be left out and priced out।
And if I - someone working in the media and who is presumably attuned to change - am feeling this way, what about others around me?
Take property।
With prices headed north, there's no way in this lifetime I'll ever get to live in a prime or near-prime district।
Lucky for me, though, that I don't suffer from property envy। I live in an unfashionable suburb, in the same house for 35 years and it's hardly ever been renovated.
Save for a nice garden (because my mother has green fingers), I live in rather shabby conditions by today's standards where chandeliers in living rooms are de rigueur (we still use fluorescent lights at home)।
Still, I wouldn't exchange my house for one in exclusive Sentosa Cove। I love it too much and hope to never leave it because it holds so many memories.
But being single, I have to be realistic and chances are, I might have to let go of it one day if it becomes too difficult or expensive to upkeep।
Then what? Where can I uproot to? What can I afford then? With property priced so ridiculously high, will I have to settle for something sad in my old age?
It's a thought that worries me and makes me unhappy।
Or take jobs and salaries।
While journalism will never pay as much as law or accountancy, I've always thought it a decent enough paymaster।
Decent, that is, until I read about how others are earning so much more।
Which makes me wonder why I'm not up there, too। Is it for lack of intelligence, ability or opportunity? Lack of ambition, energy or drive? Lack of a mentor? Why are others more able and also luckier than me?
Self-doubt - oh, let's be honest now and call it what it really is, which is envy - isn't a good feeling।
ARISTOTLE described envy as pain at the good fortune of others।
Immanuel Kant called it a propensity to view the well-being of others with distress, even though it does not detract from one's own।
Envy is different from jealousy in that jealousy involves three parties (the subject, the rival and the beloved), while envy is between two (you and the object of your envy)।
Envy as a moral ill pales in comparison to killing, stealing and lying। There's also benign envy, which is akin to grudging admiration, and the more malicious form where you have dark thoughts.
But whatever its definitions or place in the list of deadly sins, it is a sour, soul-destroying emotion. It corrodes your spirit, sets you against the world and shakes your sense of worth.
It is also a waste of time because, really, comparing and worrying about others' success serves no purpose other than to cause you stress। Others earning more does not make you earn less, does it?
Last week, while mulling over this topic, I read in Life! an extract from a book titled Letter To A Great Grandson। It contains life's lessons which American TV host Hugh Downs had penned in 2002 when his great-grandson was born.
In it, Downs, now 86, says that 'success' in life is 'a matter of adjustment'।
'If you achieve what you set out to achieve, you will be successful - if the goal had value from the start,' he says।
'If you fall short of a goal, but realise along the way that there are other valuable goals and are flexible enough to shift to better ones, you will also be successful।
'If the values you cherish have evolved only from the short-term, the selfish, the hedonistic, the frivolous, your success will not be genuine
'Values that allow and encourage commitment and the desire to contribute to others, produce some enlightenment and ratchet the community one notch higher in quality of life are the ones that will undergird success of the kind you want।'
So as Singapore enters its next phase and becomes a very successful and splendid city of casinos and penthouses and rich, beautiful folk flocking to our shores, people like me will watch, partake of what they can offer and savour the riches on show।
It will hit me hard that some things will always be beyond my reach।
If I can accept that, and my lot in life, I will be happy। If not, envy will breed and bitterness fester
The choice is really ours to make
