Tuesday, August 21, 2007

歌台

近日,带了爸爸到戏院看了表弟所导的一部电影,以示支持。

在看电影时,在看到歌台上的表演者在表演时,心想,妈妈一定会很喜欢这部戏。因她生前就喜欢听歌,喜欢热闹。还记得她在世时,每当有歌台时,我都会和妹妹陪她到楼下去看。一待就是几个小时。虽然,我和妹妹都不是那么喜欢看,但陪妈妈是义不容辞地。

但,自妈妈在两年前去世后,我就再也没到楼下去看歌台。因为歌在,妈妈已不在。

在看电影时,在听到电影里所播出的歌曲时,我的眼泪不禁地流下来。那些都是妈妈所喜欢且爱哼的。我还不时和她一起哼。看到电影里画面,让我想起了和妈妈一起看歌台的情景。

相信不止是我,歌台在许多人的心中都曾是一部分回忆,尤其是老一辈的和那些三十岁以上的人。无论是喜欢还是不喜欢,歌台都有着它独有的魅力。

电影中的歌曲尤其让人回味,如“十二莲花”、“望春风”等等脍炙人口的福建歌谣。。还有我们常常在和朋友或家人一起用餐时,总爱说的“一人一半,感情不散。。。”呵呵

或许人都是念旧的,在看到曾经接触过的事与物时,都会不禁触动心头。

Monday, July 02, 2007

生命灵数

今天从朋友的部落格,看到了这个有趣的网站。一试之下,还蛮像的。。呵呵。。好玩!

有多少人了解自己的优缺点,又有多少人了解他人。每个人都以自己的感官去看待他人,自以为了解的人,是否就真的了解对了呢?还是只凭自己所以为的呢???
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与大伙分享我的生命灵数。。。 ; )

你是個熱心積極的人,所以行動力特別快,有時甚至是太激進好強,由於你內心的衝勁都是為了達成自己的理想,因此搞那些往前衝,反抗傳統的社會運動都能適合你,你就是這號人物。

你總是執著的要去管一些事情,有時決心想做一件事情的時候,別人根本勸不聽,一旦你決定的事情會不計一切後果就要往前衝,如果方向對的話,堅持下去,就是很大的成功;如果決定的方向不對,固執往前衝的後果常會導致失敗,危險性也比較高;建議你給自己多一點自由彈性,否則遇到很多事情可能會白忙一場。  

一生中會有多次在愛情和人際關係上,陷入渾然忘我的激情與衝動當中,往往也面臨成功與毀滅的分水嶺,不妨讓自己的心有彈性一點,會比較好。 

你的生命目標是展現個人的才華,並且享受人生的各種變化,但是你最好的生活方式是跟別人一起合作,比如是事業需要伙伴,或是人生需要伴侶,最好是夫妻倆一起合作創業,合作經營。  由於你的生命目標覺得人既然來到世間,就是要到處旅遊,不斷的變化成長,吸收知識,常常出差增廣見聞,你就是有這種想法的人。建議你有伴侶的支持,更能享受人生的快樂喔!

你的個性特徵是有獨到的想法及意見,思考靈敏,立場堅定而不易被動搖,喜歡批判性及說理性的表達方式,常有驚人之語和特殊見解,但有時候不理會他人的想法,會顯得太獨斷了!

你的優點是人緣好、口才佳,富快樂開朗的一面,因此很適合出來跟人交流,建議你選擇一個方向,努力去達成與人的良好互動吧!。  

你的缺點是太隨性,有時會無法控制自己,一下子忽然興高彩烈,想到什麼就衝動去做,到處發揮精力,缺乏明確的目標,可能浪費太多精力了。   

你的天賦潛能是在變動中求生存,如果歸納出一些趨勢,則偏向比較動態的,因此你可以選擇的行業很多,需要發揮口才的、隨性一點的自由業最適合,比如公關,外交,或業務,推銷這類的人,所有需要靠人脈或朋友的工作都很好,而如果是在固定的行業裡,則最好做些變動的職務,或必須常常出差往外跑的,都可以發揮你出你的潛力。

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Monday, June 04, 2007

情是何物

“问世间,情为何物,直教人生死相许!”

最近似乎又掀起了金庸大师的杰作,在看这些电视剧时。。。此句典又不禁再次让我想问问。。。“问世间,情为何物,直教人生死相许!” 李莫愁对情郎所付出的情感而演变出来的爱与恨,让多少人不为之感动呢,皆不知是要恨她、骂她、打她还是疼惜她?

在另一著作里的女子,刀白凤、秦红棉、甘宝宝、王夫人等等女子也不约而同地爱上风流的段王爷,个个为之死心塌地,痴情不渝。。。

我有一个好朋友,对感情也是如此的执著。总是很想问她,这么多年了为何不铁定了心离开她的他。但她确实也曾经尝试离开但总不成功,最后还是回到他身边。痴情的女子,明知道他是个多情郎,身边有好几个女人,但还是待在他身边,为他,她谢绝了几个对她非常好的男子。不是不感动,而是一切只因她对他用心太深了,不能对他们产生任何的情感。或者是她还没找到一个可以代替他的人,还是她还在等待。。。无奈。。。

身边无数的朋友都叫她忘了他,勇敢地离开,去寻找自己的幸福。不离开又怎知道没有另一个他比他更好呢?但我们非她,又怎能了解呢?感情能说放就放吗?如能,世间就没有痴情怨偶了。。更何况她为他牺牲了那么多。。。唉,有多少人能了解她内心的痛与无奈呢? 说她笨、说她傻。。。。唯有问“问世间,情为何物”?

Sunday, May 20, 2007

男女朋友

男女朋友之间就一定要有爱情的存在吗?是否有能成为好朋友的呢?

我有很多很好的男性朋友,有的有如大哥般的疼爱照顾我,有的如弟弟般尊敬我,有的是无话不说,长夜漫谈的。。。

男女朋友之间的关系确实是很奇怪。。。可以有如好朋友般的无话不说,好到可以互拍肩膀的,互相取笑的等等。但说到男女之间的那种微妙感情却又是不同地,只因它涉及了一定程度的肌肤关系。这一程度的关系很难形容,只能靠感觉去体会,是非笔墨所能形容的。

或许有些朋友并不以为然,但对我而言却确如此。这种感觉不会产生于所有男性朋友的身上,但那可能会产生于多年好友的身上,也可能产生于是刚认识不久的朋友,也可以就这么的产生。。。很奇怪,但这种感觉一旦出现就不容易消失,也就因为这感觉决定了男女是怎样程度的朋友。

也同时因为这点让我不知如何接受一些男性朋友的关爱。。。很傻很蠢也很无奈。。。

但不能作男女朋友就不能做好朋友吗?不是我不想接受而是我暂时做不到。。。与其日后有不好事情/复杂关系的发生,不如从另一个角度去看待这一段友谊,只希望大家还是好朋友。

但我也了解,要这么做也非易事。

无奈,一切皆随缘吧!

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

选择

从网上报章看到了这则文章 ,读后让我深觉同感。难道不是吗?过去的几个月,我们无时无刻都可以从报章看到某某地产发展商在未正式推出最新公寓时就已被扫购一空。价格还是一涨再涨,一家紧接着一家推出。问题不是不是这些,而是难道真有这么多人能够买如此昂贵的房子吗?

看到报道以后,也听到很多朋友或朋友的朋友提升了,纷纷购买地产。心里不禁地想:是自己没本事还是自己的收入已远远落在人后,还是。。。??心情有点低落。。。

这时候当然也想起妈妈所说的:“人比人气死人。。 ” 呵呵。。话虽如此但难免会比较。

所谓,没有比较就没有进步。在这社会,人们有了比较,所以不时地在进步。人们也因为怕被淘汰而努力提升自己。但需要做到哪个地步哪个层次呢?那就要看你自己要的是什么吧!有些人只要有一碗粥吃就很高兴了,但也有些人对自己所拥有的东西还不满足。凡是尽心尽力,开心最为重要。

一切的一切皆是自己的选择,可以是知足常乐,也可以是不停追逐。选择,在于你自己。。。


The problem with envy By Sumiko Tan - Apr 8, 2007 The Straits Times

IS IT just me, or do you also feel a sense of disquiet creeping up on you whenever you read the newspapers these days?

In particular, stories about the red-hot property market and how swanky apartments - with price tags to match - are being snapped up left, right and centre and stories about people earning mind-blowing sums of $5 million a year?

Do these stories make you a little unhappy with your own life? Do they leave you with niggling feelings of being left out of the party, of the champagne bypassing you?
Oh, don't shoot the messenger। Newspapers merely report what's happening out there, and in all probability the stories are just the tip of the iceberg.

Actually, what's happening in Singapore - to Singapore - is a cause for celebration for every Singaporean।

I can't remember another period where there's been so much buoyancy, so much optimism and anticipation, about the country।

The way I see it, the tide turned when the okay was given for the integrated resorts। Imagine not one but two casinos being allowed in famously constrained Singapore.

With the IRs come not just high-class gambling like the sort you see in Las Vegas but also an ArtScience museum in Marina Bay and a Universal Studios theme park in Sentosa। And it's all just two, three years away.

Then came the property boom, and what a boom this time around। Singapore has never seen apartments this luxe being launched, and with price tags that were unthinkable just a year ago.

New pricing benchmarks are set every other week। The current record? The Orchard Residences where the smallest unit - 1,800 sq ft - sold for at least $7.2 million. A 53rd storey penthouse was reportedly snapped up by a Singaporean businessman for more than $17 million.

Then came news that Singapore might host the Formula One Grand Prix and that one blew me away।

If it materialises, no one can ever say that Singapore isn't one hot city।

Picture the circus that will roll into town every year। Imagine the maniacal drone of cars in the old City Hall area, Kimi Raikkonen in his Ferrari streaking past the Esplanade, good ole Merlion spouting water in the distance, the Singapore River shimmering behind.

Singapore will be not just the Paris and Las Vegas of South-east Asia, but Monaco thrown in, too, and everyone will get to feast on the spoils।

It's a vision that makes your pulse quicken with excitement। It's a vision that makes you glad you are Singaporean and which makes you wish you were 20 years younger so you can be a big part of the future.

It's also a vision that causes envy।

THE disquiet I feel when I read such stories is part fear, part envy।

The fear comes from being worried that in this brave new world that will be Singapore, I will be left out and priced out।

And if I - someone working in the media and who is presumably attuned to change - am feeling this way, what about others around me?

Take property।

With prices headed north, there's no way in this lifetime I'll ever get to live in a prime or near-prime district।

Lucky for me, though, that I don't suffer from property envy। I live in an unfashionable suburb, in the same house for 35 years and it's hardly ever been renovated.

Save for a nice garden (because my mother has green fingers), I live in rather shabby conditions by today's standards where chandeliers in living rooms are de rigueur (we still use fluorescent lights at home)।

Still, I wouldn't exchange my house for one in exclusive Sentosa Cove। I love it too much and hope to never leave it because it holds so many memories.

But being single, I have to be realistic and chances are, I might have to let go of it one day if it becomes too difficult or expensive to upkeep।

Then what? Where can I uproot to? What can I afford then? With property priced so ridiculously high, will I have to settle for something sad in my old age?
It's a thought that worries me and makes me unhappy।

Or take jobs and salaries।

While journalism will never pay as much as law or accountancy, I've always thought it a decent enough paymaster।

Decent, that is, until I read about how others are earning so much more।

Which makes me wonder why I'm not up there, too। Is it for lack of intelligence, ability or opportunity? Lack of ambition, energy or drive? Lack of a mentor? Why are others more able and also luckier than me?

Self-doubt - oh, let's be honest now and call it what it really is, which is envy - isn't a good feeling।

ARISTOTLE described envy as pain at the good fortune of others।

Immanuel Kant called it a propensity to view the well-being of others with distress, even though it does not detract from one's own।

Envy is different from jealousy in that jealousy involves three parties (the subject, the rival and the beloved), while envy is between two (you and the object of your envy)।

Envy as a moral ill pales in comparison to killing, stealing and lying। There's also benign envy, which is akin to grudging admiration, and the more malicious form where you have dark thoughts.

But whatever its definitions or place in the list of deadly sins, it is a sour, soul-destroying emotion. It corrodes your spirit, sets you against the world and shakes your sense of worth.
It is also a waste of time because, really, comparing and worrying about others' success serves no purpose other than to cause you stress। Others earning more does not make you earn less, does it?

Last week, while mulling over this topic, I read in Life! an extract from a book titled Letter To A Great Grandson। It contains life's lessons which American TV host Hugh Downs had penned in 2002 when his great-grandson was born.

In it, Downs, now 86, says that 'success' in life is 'a matter of adjustment'।

'If you achieve what you set out to achieve, you will be successful - if the goal had value from the start,' he says।

'If you fall short of a goal, but realise along the way that there are other valuable goals and are flexible enough to shift to better ones, you will also be successful।

'If the values you cherish have evolved only from the short-term, the selfish, the hedonistic, the frivolous, your success will not be genuine

'Values that allow and encourage commitment and the desire to contribute to others, produce some enlightenment and ratchet the community one notch higher in quality of life are the ones that will undergird success of the kind you want।'

So as Singapore enters its next phase and becomes a very successful and splendid city of casinos and penthouses and rich, beautiful folk flocking to our shores, people like me will watch, partake of what they can offer and savour the riches on show।

It will hit me hard that some things will always be beyond my reach।

If I can accept that, and my lot in life, I will be happy। If not, envy will breed and bitterness fester

The choice is really ours to make





休息待发

另一篇励志佳作,与大伙分享。确实,我们在很多时候都会在某个阶段感到生活有点忙乱,不知所措,唯有继续下去, 直到身心疲惫为止。

身心疲惫可能是有很多原因而造成的,可以是因为对工作的责任感、感情问题、家庭问题、调职等等而引起。当我们为着不明去向的工作而忙碌时,忙碌而又不见成绩的工作,身上背负太多责任,工作量太大。。。。不明压力的就会产生,身心很快的也就会疲惫。

人在处于疲惫的状况时是无法把眼前的事情,把该要做的事情看清楚。在这时候,或许我们就该尝试退一步,稍微休息一下,让身心有机会调整,方能以更好的体魄、精神去迎接眼前所要做的事情。

长久以来就有这句话:“休息是为了走更长的路”。了解有时候不是我们不想休息,而是无论怎么做,就是无法好好睡觉。无形的压力导致身体不能好好休息,直至崩溃为止。

但是,当身体无法负荷时,我们就不能有个清晰的脑袋,对生活也会失去重心。所以,偶尔的小息或离开岗位一下,对调整身心是绝对有帮助的。一个人能做的事情是有限地,不可能自己一个人把所有的事情都作了,把所有的东西的扛下来。不要把所有的事情都背负在自己的身上,适当的分配工作将有助于减少不必要的压力,也可能让其他人从中学习。把身上的大石头,变成很多的小石头,然后按部就班,把最先要丢出去的石头丢出去,从而把自己身上的大石头逐步变小。这可以是把工作分配出去或把眼前的工作重新安排,把最先需要做好的先做好,以此类推。

让我们不要做到不能做的时候才懂得休息,要在适当的时候让身体充电。这样,我们才能在休息后再次整装待发,重新出击,让生活过得更美好!! :)


Refocus Your Life

We all go through times in our lives when we feel a little disoriented। It could be simply due to exhaustion, the result of taking on too many jobs and obligations. It could be after a major crisis. Or it could be doing the things you feel you should be doing, instead of the things that really matter to you. All this can take a toll on our energy level, our motivation to get through each day.

Whatever the reason, if you're feeling a little out-of-whack, and you haven't a clue why, it may be time to start re-focusing your life।

This means taking a step back, taking a deep breath, evaluating your life, and listening to your inner voice। Now for some people, this means taking a holiday, which is fine if it works for you. For others, a vacation may mean additional stress - the stress of preparing your work to go on when you're gone, planning where to go, where to stay, and the withdrawal symptoms when you get back.

A holiday is great if it gives you the time and space to relax and re-prioritise your life। If not, you can refocus your life right नोव.

The best thing you can do for your body is to give it enough rest। This has to be done before any refocusing can begin. In such competitive, fast-paced times, most of us are not getting the amount of rest we need. Many of us might think that we can get away with five or six hours of sleep a day, just because we don't feel tired for the rest of the day. But this is simply our bodies getting used to less sleep, not necessarily an indication of what our bodies actually need to perform at their peak.

Get enough sleep, at least the eight hours recommended amount a day, and you'll find that you can think more clearly, work more efficiently, and have more energy and motivation।

Next, examine your life schedule and re-evaluate your priorities। What's taking up your time and your energy? Are they productive? Are they improving you in any way? Are they things you enjoy or at least things that make you money or develop relationships? Are there any time and spirit wasters that you feel are your obligations? Be stringent with your evaluations and throw out the tasks that are not benefitting you.

And figure out how you're using your time। True, a day's hours are finite, but if you examine your daily actions, you'll find some things that take up more than their fair share of your time. For example, do you find yourself checking your email several times a day and typing out detailed, carefully-worded essays? Are you sending, re-sending, and forwarding your time away?

Identify other aspects of your life which may be wasting your time and energy. These are the little leeches sucking the life from you. Get rid of them, and refocus your priorities on things that truly fulfill you.


A Slice of Life is written, produced and presented by Eugene Loh

Saturday, April 07, 2007

男女的事

我深知感情是如此累人的事,可以为之喜之也可以为之伤之,伤害自己伤害身边的人。

曾经很傻的以为只要有你在身边就好,什么都可以不在乎。。。自己也不例外。。。。最终痛的还是自己。

有个相识的朋友,个人认为她是个时尚的专业人生。但她也同样面对感情问题。爱上了有妇之夫,更为了和对方在一起,毅然与结婚多年的先生离婚。对方有老婆孩子,离婚只是说说而从未对票。而朋友呢?婚离了,前夫在离婚后从伤害中走出来并在几年后再次结婚。想想朋友或已不能回头,唯有继续和该男子在一起,守候一个不完全属于自己的男人。感情是付出的吧。。。是不是只要从远处看你就够了呢?爱情真的就让人如此伟大付出吗?

了解和自己不在爱的男人在一起或很痛苦,但和自己所爱又不能在一起的人,自己永远只能处于第二位,更是可以让人心死心哀,又无奈。

女人可以是感情的受害人,男人也可以。眼下就有几位是更是在下的亲人和朋友。 两个失恋于在服兵役时,还弄得要进兵牢。而另一个我更是亲身接触的,伤害也很大。亲人可以闹到读书读一半地从国外回来,弄得母亲为之担心不已,而他只为见对方一面。

感情对我而言更是让我不愿提起的。。。爱之深伤之切。。。超无奈。。。

悲哀与否。。。时间乃最好的疗药。。。

Thursday, March 29, 2007

又是清明时分

春节一过后,转眼之间又是清明时分。。。。。

记得过去,每当在清明上坟时,都会想起唐代杜牧的<清明>:

“清明时节雨纷纷,路上行人欲断魂。
借问酒家何处有?牧童遥指杏花村。”

曾何及时,从不需要为清明上坟时要买些什么或做些什么,一切都有妈妈安排,我只需随行的我,也开始了需要为清明购买所需的贡品。一直纳闷为何人们要买这么多纸衣纸鞋、纸金纸银。。。。。如今,自己也为自己的妈妈买了好多纸之类的东西,就恐不够似的, 也就了解了为故人买这么多东西的心理。虽无人知晓死后的世界,但眼见他人买,自己不买,就恐自己的亲人没东西用,没钱花。也或许是想再为亲人做些什么吧!

现在的我在妈妈去世后,也买起了金银纸、纸衣纸鞋等。买的时候,心里是充满了莫名的伤感。

想起了另一首诗: “树欲静而风不止,子欲养而亲不在”

但是,深信处处为他人设想,为家人任劳任怨的妈妈,我伟大的妈妈会在另一个国度里快乐健康的生活着,也会在哪遥远的地方看着我。就如一个好友所说的:“她还在一个遥远的地方关注着你”。。。。

亲爱的妈妈,如有任何需要,有任何事情,喜的忧的愁的,不要担心,一定要到我梦里来告诉我哦! 无时无刻不思念您。。。

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

人生旅程的4个基本法

刚从网上看到著名DJ的著作。看后非常有所感触。。。

老子言:“千里之行始于足下。为者败之,执者失之。是以圣人无为故无败,无执故无失。民之从事常於几成而败之。慎终如始则无败事。是以圣人欲不欲,不贵难得之货。学不学,复众人之所过,以辅万物之自然而不敢为。”。。。万般事情,都始于第一步。一步一步,秉持坚信,终能抵达目的地。

《4 Basic Steps on the Journey of Life〉

Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu famously said "The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step."

Indeed, as with everything in life, we learn by taking one step at a time. We may fall down, but we get back up and take another step. That is the only way to learn and to continue growing. In such a fast-paced modern world, however, some of us forget that principle. We try to run, inevitably trip and take a very painful tumble.

Some of us put off this journey of self-discovery and empowerment; we model ourselves against other people, we learn to suppress our genuine selves in order to fit in, we are terrified perhaps that if we opened ourselves up and looked in, we might not like what we see.

Well, like it or not, that's a risk we all have to face. With high risk comes high yield or a big loss. Unfortunately, most of us prefer to live in denial. We go about thinking the best or the worst of ourselves, until one day we fall down into the mud and we actually have to face ourselves. Who are you? What makes you special? What makes you YOU?

There are four basic steps that we need to follow on our journey.

Step One - Be prepared to look at yourself and admit that every bruise, every fall is all your doing.

Step Two - Surrender, let go of the idea that you should control every event, and have faith that everything you ask will be given to you.

Step Three - Sit down every day and write. Start a journal and every day record the events of the day, paying attention to your reactions to events, experiences, and people. Classify your reactions for what they were, whether they be anger, jealousy, resentment, joy, love, or self-pity.

By identifying your reaction and classifying it as your reaction to an event, you will come to see why you are acting as you are. Why you would react angrily in a situation that does not require anger; your own feelings and responsibilities.

Step Four - Ask why. "Why do I become angry in that situation?", "What is my deeper hidden feeling about this type of situation?". Start recording your "why's" in a separate book. In this book, record all your experiences and incidents of your past and how you reacted to them.
You will soon start to see that your current reactions can be traced back to past situations. Sooner or later we must admit that all our reactions are a result of our desires, expectations and our ego. Once you can trace your weaknesses, you will find ways to deal with them in a more constructive and positive way.

'Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio'.

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

'The Bend in the Road'

从书上看到了这么一首诗,非常据有意义。其结尾是这么写的:

....

And together we stand at life's crossroads
And view what we think is the end,
But God has a much bigger vision
And He tells us it's only a bend.

For the road goes on and is smoother,
And the pause in the song is a rest.
And the part that's unsung and unfinished
Is the sweetest and richest and best.

So rest and relax and grow stronger.
Let go and let God share your load,
Your work is not finished or ended,
You've just come to a bend in the road.

@1965 The Helen Steiner Rice Foundation

Sunday, March 18, 2007

心情,何物。。。

不知为何故,这几天的心情都不是很好。感觉很苦恼,很脆弱,薄有压力。不知该如何改进,感到有心而力不足。

眼前有好多事要去进行,却又不知如何开始。。。有好多‘债务’需要去还,却也不知该如何开始偿还。。。需要做的有很多,想要做的也有很多很多,但却好像寸步难行。如不,就是做了却看不到成绩。是自己太心急还是自己做错了,所以没有成绩????不知道。。。

我深知一切需要一步一步来,债也可慢慢还。。。但心情就是不好。

很希望自己能过得忙碌点儿,忙碌的生活可以使自己的过得更充实,无论是时间上还是金钱上。如何才能让自己过得充实点儿呢?有谁能告诉我呢??我自己。。。。。哎。。

想要做得更多更好,但却似是不知如何迈开脚步。。。。

前面似乎有好多道门,打也打不完的门。。。。。

或许是自己对自己的要求太高了吧。。。当达不到要求时,心情就很低落。。

哎,别气馁啊!!! 要加油哦!!!

嗨! 高球 ;)

记得在好几年前,通过了一位大哥哥似的朋友接触了高球。这位朋友也为了让我对高球有更多的兴趣及认识,有机会自己练习,所以买了一套高尔夫球具给我。

但在毕业后,慢慢地和这位朋友失去了联系。因此,我也有一段时间没玩高球。之前,有曾和女友前去向专业高球老师学了几堂课,但很可惜,女友并没有对高球产生兴趣而老师也没有好好地把高球技术教好。

至此以后,我也只是偶尔到球场练习。每一项运动都需有人一起练习才能提高兴致以及互相的推动力/扶持,更有个朋友可以讨论,可以让彼此进步。所以,有一个‘玩伴’是难能可贵的。

我就没有这‘玩伴’。。。。:(

不过,就在去年末时,有个朋友对高球起了兴趣。我好高兴,因为终于有朋友和我一起玩高球了。同时,为了对高球有更多的认识,我游览了好多有关高球的网站,因而也让我认识了一群高球的朋友。

我的球技不是很好,和这群朋友打球时,我都会没有信心。球打得好差,但他们都没取笑我反而很有耐心地指导我, 让我放下了心中的大石头。

上个星期,我还和他们一块儿到马来西亚的一个高尔夫球场打球。他们没有嫌弃我的球技,不只让我加入也帮我提高了对高球的认识。很高兴认识他们 :)

现在,终于可以找到一群朋友和我打高球了。。很高兴。希望我也可以把高球打好,打得更好。。加油! :)

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

花样少年少女

几个星期前,。某家电台播出了台湾的校园电视剧<<花样少年少女>>。。。看后觉得非常轻松有趣。当知道朋友有牒时,更是在第一时间借过来,在一天的时间内把整部戏给看完。

剧情是依据日本漫画<<偷偷爱上你>>而上演的。内容也很简单,说的是女主角从电视上看到了男主角后,受到激励,成功减肥后,女扮男装独自跑到台湾去找心中偶像并同读一所男校。此后就接二连三的发生很多有趣的事件,男主角更是在发现女主角是女扮男装后,极力保护她,不让她的身份暴露,两人也在不知不觉中偷偷地爱上对方。

此片之所以受欢迎,可能是剧中的俊男美女,也有可能是剧中的歌曲。。。。各有所好吧!

但它吸引我的地方却是它哪轻松/有趣/单纯的剧情,仿佛把我带回了年轻时,猛啃漫画的少女时期吧。。。还记得当时,妈妈总得三催四请,骂中带劝地叫我吃饭,又似无可耐何地放弃了。。。漫画的魅力无法挡哦。。拿我没办法。。。。呵呵。。。。依然记得当时的我有上千本的漫画哦。。。但在几年前,万般无奈/不舍下把它们送给了二手商。

<<花样少年少女>>,名符其实,说的是少男少女时期的花样年华,单纯无邪。。。。哪样的日子还挺让人怀念,回味。。。。

但片受欢迎也可能是因现代忙碌的人,不想看些需要用脑力的戏而被此剧轻松的剧情吸引。虽然此剧可能有些单纯,可笑的画面也有令人毛骨耸然的对白。。。但您会不禁的露出慧心一笑。。。:)

Tuesday, March 06, 2007

轻生。。。

今天从朋友口中知道了他的一个好友在昨天结束了自己的生命。。。结束了她短短的27年人生。。。。。听后,挺伤感的。。。。

获知她是因经历了几次不成功的恋情,更在近期的分手后,走上绝路的。朋友曾多次劝导但最终,她还是选择了离开。。。

试问感情为何物,叫人欢喜也叫人愁。。。又有多少人能拥有美好恋情到老呢????

但尽管如此,身旁仍有爱我们及我们所爱的家人好友,所以不该轻言放弃。。。自己是结束了但却把伤悲留给了所爱的人。。。何等的难受啊。。。

Friday, March 02, 2007

颜色

在离开了他以后,曾尝试和一位男生交往。。。

和这个男生在一起时,心情没有所谓的高潮迭起,一切就这样平平静静,没有特别的感觉。。。。也不知何谓,进行得有点儿累,所以慢慢地也就不知该如何继续。。。。。

一直不知该如何回答这男生的问题。。。。如今,我似乎知道了答案。。。

自妈妈离开后,我的生活就没有了亮丽的颜色,在选择离开他的时候,我的生活更只有灰色。。。

现在的我很努力地让自己过得更好,要有更优质的生活,积极地要为自己的生活注入色彩。但这位男生似是个没有色彩的人,更别说为我的生活加入色彩。以后不知道,但现在没有。。。

所以,与其把两个没有色彩的人放在一起,不如各自到其他领域寻找各自的色彩。如有缘,日后再聚。如今的我,不想让没有色彩的生活变得更灰,所以我选择放弃。。。

如若真可以有希望,我希望有个人能出现和我一起努力,打拼。。。但在还没遇到那个人时,我会好好努力,为自己的生活带来更多颜色。。。

爱得太迟。。。

在过年期间,看到了去年香港劲歌劲曲颁奖典礼,年度最受欢迎的一首歌。。。古巨基的《爱得太迟》。

爱得太迟???是自己爱得太迟还是不要爱得太迟???都是。。。不要在忙碌的生活中,把所爱的人忘记,把该爱的人丢弃。。。如不后悔就迟,所拥有的也不外就是落寞与无限遗憾。。

这首歌有两个版本,一是独唱,二是男女合唱。所唱的内容也不一样。独唱所写的是对父母对朋友,而合唱则是男女情感。

看看歌词吧。。。朋友,咱们一起深思吧!!咱们是不是都爱得太迟???


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爱得太迟-- 周慧敏/古巨基合唱。 注:林夕写的词还是叫绝的。


男:我过去 抱紧她 早晚共对 到了扎职以后 自觉太累 而即使 相约到 亦无言共对 疏淡如水
女:我过去 也只因 工作万岁 我爱侣 极介意 跟他比对 而最怕 再奋斗 做强人下去 有哪个能追
男:最心痛是 爱得太迟 女:有心倾诉 不可等某个日子
男:盲目地发奋 忙忙忙其实自私 合:梦中也习惯 有压力要我得志
女:谁会在意 谁会及时 男:只差一秒 心声都已变历史
合:忙极亦放肆 见我爱见的相知 要抱要吻要怎么也好
男:偏要推说等下一次
男:我最爱 等不到 早已别去 却发觉 心太累 没有眼泪 穷一生 想再追 但难寻旧爱 都似独居
女:我也怕 习惯了 不靠伴侣 谁和谁 又约我一一婉拒难碰上 我最爱 便独立下去 却怕有人催
男:错失太易 爱得太迟 女:怎么补救 心中的刺永在此
男:盲目地发奋 忙忙忙从来未知 合:幸福会掠过 再也没法说钟意
女:忘记上次 唯有及时 男:只差一秒 心声都已变历史
合:为何未放肆 见我爱见的相知 要抱要吻要怎么也好
男:不要相信一切有下次 女:珍惜我所爱又花几多秒 这几秒
男:能够做到又有多少 女:虽一秒 男:未算少 合:足够遗憾望掉
男:多少抱撼(女:不要)多少过路人(女:抖震)几多相爱 合:几多相处了又分
男:人人在发奋 想起他朝都兴奋 合:但今晚未过 我要过也很吸引 女:能吻便吻 谁也是人
男:理想很远 爱于咫尺却在等 合:来日别操心 趁我有能力相亲 世界有太多东西发生
男:不要等到天上拥吻 女:天空海阔谁与你俯瞰

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独唱版

我过去那死党早晚共对
各也扎职以后没法畅聚
而终於相约到但无言共对疏淡如水
曰夜做见爸爸刚好想呻
却霎眼看出他多了皱纹
而他的苍老感是从来未觉太内疚担心
最心痛是爱得太迟有些心意
不可等某个曰子
盲目地发奋忙忙忙其实自私
梦中也习惯有压力要我得知
最可怕是爱需要及时只差一秒
心声都已变历史
忙极亦放肆见我爱的见双至
要抱要吻怎黱也好
偏要推说要等一下次
我也觉我体质仿似下降
看了症得到是别要太忙
而影碟都扫光但从来未看因有事赶
曰夜做储的钱都应该够
到圣诞正好讲跟我白头
谁知她开了口未能挨下去己恨我很久
错失太易爱得太迟我怎想到
她忍不到那曰子
盲目地发奋忙忙忙从来未知幸福会掠过
再也没法说钟意爱一个字
也需要及时只差一秒
心声都己变历史为忙未放肆
见我爱见的双至要抱要吻要怎黱也好
不要相信一切有下次
相拥我所爱又花几多秒
这几秒能够做到又有多少
未算少足够遗憾忘掉
多少抱憾多少过路人
太懂估计却不懂爱锡自身
人人在发奋想起他朝都兴奋
但今晚未过你要过也很吸引
纵不信运你不过是人
你想很远爱於咫尺却在等
来曰别操心趁你有能力开心
世界有太多东西发生不要等到天

http://mp3.baidu.com/m?tn=baidump3&ct=134217728&lm=-1&li=500&word=%B0%AE%B5%C3%CC%AB%B3%D9+%B9%C5%BE%DE%BB%F9%2B%D6%DC%BB%DB%C3%F4

曾经丢失的朋友。。。

在人生过程中,我们都曾经被朋友遗忘/放弃或我们曾经把朋友遗忘/放弃。来来往往的朋友无数,但值得珍惜的又有几个??

值得珍惜的朋友不好找,要惜福啊!无论是谁对谁错,别太在意,切记要把该珍惜的朋友留住。:)

相知相惜的朋友是长长久久的,更是难求得。曾经要放弃过我的朋友,谢谢你不放弃我。我很高兴能找回曾经就要失去的你。。。

在此向爱护我珍惜我的朋友们说声谢谢,你们是我人生最宝贵的财富。。。

Thursday, February 22, 2007

元旦。。农历年。。新的一年

时光飞逝。。2007元旦过了。。。2007农历年也过了5天了。

2006对我而言可说是起落不断,悲多于喜的一年。。06年结束前的几个月更陷入了低潮,心情非常地消沉。。。

06年初时,喜于找到一份新的工作,以为可以为新的挑战作战。。。没想到高层的内讧使我需要做出牺牲,离开了公司。离开,没关系。。。。东家不打打西家。。。。但一切的一切非我想象地。。所做的一切都不尽人意。。和朋友合作的餐饮业也因不尽理想而结束。付出了很多努力但所做的一切都超不理想。。超失望。。。

不过,更让心寒心乱心死的是。。。。我再次犯了不该犯的错,再次做了我不该做的事。。但这也让我清醒了,心死了。。定了心离开了我早该离开的人。。很难。。。。不过,所犯的错深深地印在脑海里,无时无刻提醒我 不能再走回头。。。。

过去的我好失败。。朋友的话更让我觉得超失败。。。。

唉。。不要紧。。过去的我过去了;现在的我重生了。。努力为自己打拼,为自己想要得到的生活、目标而努力。。善待自己,提升自己,让自己和他人快乐,以过去为戒。。。。

2007年,金猪年,我的本名年。。。。虽犯太岁,但不怕,凡事尽心尽力,顺顺利利就好。从电影听到了这翻话:your attitude colors every aspect of your life. It is like minds paintbrush..什么样的态度将为人生的每个片段带来什么样的色彩。。。。的确如此,对自己的人生抱有什么样的态度是何等的重要啊。。。

现在的我再次回到工作岗位,再次冲刺。不会再乱撞。。。一切按计划,按步就班、一步一步来,要稳扎稳打 :)

2007将是漂亮、平安、快乐、丰收的一年! 加油! ; D

疑被遗弃。。。:)

昨日经过了朋友的网页,发现自己的网址不见了!!!心想。。。。。嗯!难道自己被遗弃了吗??
即刻写了短讯问问朋友。。。。。呵呵。。今天就接到朋友的来电,问我何原因,把朋友弄糊涂了!

经过解释,原来是我弄错了。。朋友只是把我的网名给改了。。真是迷糊 ;)

其实啊,朋友。。我知道你不会把我遗弃的。。。。哈哈 ;D

好啦,咱们下次再看戏吧!! ;P